How I Beat Stress Here’s what I did: After two stressful, exhausting days, the workout was actually my first step to recovery. It might seem counterintuitive — why exercise when you’re exhausted? And sometimes that can be dangerous — adding the stress of lots of exercise to physical and mental exhaustion can put you at risk of burnout or injury. But I’ve found that a good bout of... exertion works wonders for when I’m stressed. So I ran and lifted a few weights. Already I my head was clearing. Then I meditated for about 10 minutes. Bringing myself back to the moment is a great way to beat stress. I then shut down my computer, got outside, walked, met with a friend and spent a few hours of disconnected time. When I got back, I did return to the computer, but only allowed myself shorter bursts. I also took a short nap (highly, highly recommended). I massaged my shoulders (OK, my wife Eva also helped with the shoulder massage). I read for a bit. I spent some time reading with my kids. And I had some green tea while drinking it slowly and savoring it.
Mein Freund, der Mental-Coach JaredTendler beschreibt die Beherrschung einer Sache mit wenn die kleinen Dinge zu großen Dingen werden. Damit will er sagen, dass jemand dann etwas wirklich beherrscht, wenn er die grundlegenden Dinge so gut verstanden hat, dass er sich auf darauf konzentrieren kann, aus den kleinsten Details einen Vorteil gegenüber der Konkurrenz zu entwickeln.
I don’t subscribe to the belief system that would have me sacrificing myself on the altar of free. In my opinion a better model can be found in Ayn Rand’s Atlas Shrugged. I don’t consider myself an objectivist, but this happens to be one of my all-time favorite fiction books because it conveys such an interesting philosophy. I loved Rand’s take on value for value exchanges. People of high... integrity deal with each other by trading fair value for value, but those same people deal with manipulative leeches very differently — by the end of the book, they basically leave the leeches behind and refuse to do business with them at all. I’m not so severe as Rand in this philosophy, but I do find it helpful to think of making fair value for value exchanges and ignoring those who make requests which I consider to be unfair or win-lose. I provide lots of free content so that everyone can benefit, but I’m also fair to myself. I want my work to be win-win. You win. I win. But there are quite a number of people who make requests of me that are clearly win-lose. I simply ignore them. As I mentioned in a previous article on selfishness, I believe in finding a place where service to self and service to others become the same thing. I’ve seen that serious problems result whenever there’s a conflict between the two. I have no interest in being a greedy, self-centered, money-hungry pig, nor do I wish to be a self-sacrificing martyr. My “greed” is directed at increasing abundance for myself and others simultaneously. I put a lot of thought into aligning my good with the highest good of all, such that both are able to point in the same direction.